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Thursday, 3 September 2015

New husband ran off with one of our wedding guests in UK


A bride who had been engaged to the love of her life for seven years was dumped just three months after finally getting married - when the groom ran off with a wedding guest.
Heartbroken Michelle Young, from Andover, Hampshire, was left in tatters after Alan Hoffman, 36, ran off with his work colleague Gemma Hadley.
Despite the trauma, 29-year-old Michelle, who works as an administrator, says she is trying to maintain a dignified approach and is focused on 'moving on' with the rest of her life.
Heartbroken Michelle Young, pictured centre, was dumped by her husband Alan Hoffman, centre, three months after her wedding - for guest Gemma Hadley, third from left
Heartbroken Michelle Young, pictured centre, was dumped by her husband Alan Hoffman, centre, three months after her wedding - for guest Gemma Hadley, third from left
It was love at first sight when Michelle was set up on a blind date with Alan, who was a former infantry soldier, in January 2004. 
'I worked in Clinton Cards in Basingstoke at the time, and my colleague knew Alan and thought we would get on well,' she said. 'We met up, and went to the cinema and out for dinner afterwards.
'As an ex-army infantry soldier, Alan was loud and proud, while I was much more shy and retiring - but surprisingly we got on like a house on fire. Our relationship progressed and it wasn't long before we moved in together.'

Eleven months later, on Christmas Day 2004, Alan proposed.
'The proposal was a strange but sweet gesture,' said Michelle. 'Alan's little brother Nathan died as a baby and Alan wanted to ask me to marry him at his grave. He said he wanted his brother to be a part of one of the biggest moments of his life.
'He gave me several different shaped boxes and in the smallest box was a beautiful gold band with three diamonds. I was over the moon. When I saw the ring I almost cried. I was so happy - I couldn't wait to marry him.'
After dating for eleven months, ex-army infantry soldier Alan proposed to Gemma on Christmas Day in 2004  
After dating for eleven months, ex-army infantry soldier Alan proposed to Gemma on Christmas Day in 2004  
It was love at first sight when Michelle was set up on a blind date with retail assistant Alan in January 2004
It was love at first sight when Michelle was set up on a blind date with retail assistant Alan in January 2004
It was six years before the couple finally set a date and Michelle spent a whole year excitedly planning her dream wedding. 
'We moved to Bournemouth in 2010, so we decided on Bournemouth Town Hall for the ceremony and booked a local bowls club for the reception,' she said.
'Although I was a little nervous, I had waited a long time for this day. Alan and I were finally tying the knot after being engaged for seven years so it was a big deal to me.
 Although I was a little nervous, I had waited a long time for this day
Michelle Young  
'We invited 70 of our closest family and friends to the event and I made everything myself, including the invitations, table decorations and the wedding favours.
'I chose a beautiful sweetheart neckline gown, and my work colleagues helped to make me a wedding cake.'
Alan was a shelf-stacker at the local Sainsbury's, and got on so well with his work colleagues that he asked if he could invite them to his big day.
'He often spoke about his colleagues as they all got on so well,' Michelle said. 'So when he asked if he could invite a group of them to the wedding, I instantly said yes.
'I told him it would be lovely to have them there. I thought it was nice that he wanted them to be part of our day.'
And although Michelle was fine with Alan inviting his colleagues to the wedding, she admits that alarm bells rang in her head when Alan mentioned that his colleague Gemma, 27, was going to be there.
Michelle and Alan got hitched in September 2012 and had seven bridesmaids and three page boys. Their first dance was to Something Right by Westlife
Michelle and Alan got hitched in September 2012 and had seven bridesmaids and three page boys. Their first dance was to Something Right by Westlife
Michelle and Alan got hitched in September 2012 and had seven bridesmaids and three page boys. Their first dance was to Something Right by Westlife. 
'The day was absolutely perfect,' she said. 'We exchanged vows in front of everyone who was important to us. I'd never been happier but I couldn't help but notice when Alan kept disappearing to talk to his colleagues, including Gemma, who kept glancing over at me.
'I tried to push any worries out of my head. He was probably just checking they were having a good time. Besides, he'd just married me.'
But the ink had barely dried on their marriage certificate when Alan started to change. Within a few weeks he became distant and less interested in sex.
'At first I thought it was because we worked alternating shifts, but soon he started dropping Gemma into conversation more and more,' said Michelle.
'They were seeing a lot of each other. My instincts told me that something wasn't right. I didn't want to make a fuss, but I felt threatened by Gemma.
Michelle described her big day to Alan as 'absolutely perfect' but she was not prepared for what was to happen next
Michelle described her big day to Alan as 'absolutely perfect' but she was not prepared for what was to happen next
'She was younger, slimmer and prettier than me. And I didn't feel comfortable with the idea of her and Alan being alone together in my flat. I tentatively asked Alan if there was something between them but he laughed it off. She also had a boyfriend, so Alan said he thought the idea was ludicrous.
'But although Alan always insisted there was nothing going on between them, I couldn't help feeling jealous by their friendship. I just tried to bury my feelings about it.'
But in January 2013 - less than four months after they married - Alan came home from work one day and said they needed to talk. It was then he admitted that he no longer loved Michelle - and had feelings for Gemma instead.
'He was stood by the sink, pretending to wash some dishes, when he blurted out the horrible truth,' Michelle said. 'He just said: 'I don't love you anymore,'and my heart shattered into a thousand pieces.
'He said things just weren't right and that they hadn't been right for ages, and that I felt more like his sister than his wife. 
'His words hit hard - but I knew he was telling the truth, I could tell it in the way he spoke. But I also knew there was more to it than that. I asked him if he had feelings for anyone else, and he nodded. That's when I asked him if it was Gemma, and he nodded again. Devastation engulfed me.'
Although he swore nothing had happened between them, Alan admitted to Michelle that he had spoken to Gemma about his feelings for her - and that she felt the same.
Despite the trauma, 29-year-old Michelle, pictured with Alan in happier times, has tried to maintain a dignified approach and is focused on 'moving on' with the rest of her life
Despite the trauma, 29-year-old Michelle, pictured with Alan in happier times, has tried to maintain a dignified approach and is focused on 'moving on' with the rest of her life
'He said he wanted to see where things led with her,' Michelle said. 'I was heartbroken. We had only been married for a few months and already Alan was leaving me for somebody else.
'There was so much running through my head. I wasn't sure if I believed what he was saying - how could you just leave your wife and partner of eight years for your work colleague who you had never even kissed?
Gemma Hadley said she was not romantically involved with Alan at the time of his wedding to Michelle 
Gemma Hadley said she was not romantically involved with Alan at the time of his wedding to Michelle 
'It was made worse when friends of ours then told me that they had seen Gemma and Alan out and about together on a few occasions - they obviously couldn't keep away from each other.'
Despite her heartbreak, Michelle decided to take the dignified approach and tried to keep on good terms with Alan - even offering to move out so he didn't have to. She moved in with her best friend Toni and kept in touch with Alan.
Within a few months, he admitted to Michelle that Gemma had broken up with her boyfriend and that they were seeing each other. 
Now, two years on, Alan is still with Gemma, while Michelle is waiting for her divorce to come through.
'I was gutted at the time - it meant my marriage was well and truly over,' she said. 'I'm moving on but when I flick through my wedding photos, and look at all three of us smiling for the camera, it still breaks my heart.'
Speaking about his split from Michelle, Alan said: 'Before we were married it was pretty much over between us anyway. I was just too scared to not go through with it (the wedding). She had spent so much time setting it all up it just felt as though I couldn't back out of it.
'I liked Gemma before the wedding, but it wasn't until after the wedding that we realised how much we liked each other. Around the Christmas period it felt like it was all a big farce really, I realised that even though I was married to Michelle, I didn't want to be with her because I had feelings for somebody else. 
'I just remember coming back from work one day and standing at the kitchen sink and telling her that I didn't love her and didn't want to be with her any more. She said to me: 'Is there someone else?' and I just said yeah.'
Gemma, who is still in a relationship with Alan, stresses that the pair were not romantically involved at his wedding. She said: 'Alan and I were only ever work colleagues while he was married and dating Michelle. When both of our relationships broke off that's when we decided to take it one step further, into an intimate relationship. 
'Michelle always had a problem with Alan having female friendships, especially if those women were of a slimmer build than her. I attended their wedding in a group of co-workers.
'I feel saddened that Michelle has used me as a scapegoat for the breakdown of her marriage but I'm sure there were other factors that resulted in their relationship breaking down which didn't involve me. 
'Me and Alan are still happily together and as much as Michelle obviously hasn't moved on I do wish her all the best and happiness for the future.'
The ink had barely dried on their marriage certificate when Alan started to change. Within a few weeks he became distant and less interested in sex, according to Michelle 
The ink had barely dried on their marriage certificate when Alan started to change. Within a few weeks he became distant and less interested in sex, according to Michelle 


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